How do Alcoholics face people?

honest to God I have no clue how one can face people? my dad is one and i havent talked to him in 5 years cause he emberessed me my entire life because of his so-called disease [i jsut asked a question about that if you want to answer]. one time at my sweet sixteen, he came home drunk and started cursing at everyone at the party and fainted on my cake...my mother had the balls to tell me that i have to forgive cause he has a disease? which i dont beleive is true but someone who is just weak and indulges himself but my question is this...how the hell do you face people after? and do honestly xpect people to forgive you?? oh and please dont use this answer as an excuse to go drinking cause i made you feel guilty....

How do Alcoholics face people?
my father is also an alky, he drinks so he does'nt have to confront his actions, COWARD! you have my sympathy.
Reply:You might not think so; but alcoholism is an actual disease. But one that has an easy cure, unlike diabetes or cancer.


He just needs to find a support group and stay away from the stuff.


I have a step bro that's been hooked on drugs since childhood. He's now in his 40's %26amp; still doin' the stuff. We've given up on him.


It's easier to be weak %26amp; give into temptation.


Rather than be strong and say NO.
Reply:they too are people, they have feelings and a heart. they have problems like everybody else, just different ways of handling it.





peace.
Reply:They get drunk
Reply:I understand why you are so angry with your father but please reconsider cutting him out of your life. He has made mistakes, Perhaps many, but then haven't we all? You can be unexcepting of his behavior but still love the man.
Reply:on the floor.
Reply:You dad is addicted to alcohol. Addicts may have been stupid to allow themselves to become addicted, but once they are addicted their problem is not simply a matter of being weak and indulging ones self.





I'm sure your Dad has suffered quite a bit and continues to suffer the consequences of his addiction. Alienating his daughter is one of the ways that he suffers.





The way you've written your question focuses on your Father's problem. But there is nothing you can do about his problems. All you can do is try to work through your own anger so that you don't turn into a permanently angry, bitter and unforgiving person.





I would suggest reading some books on forgiveness, and I would also suggest that you focus on the things that you are thankful for (such as you yourself not having an addiction) rather than wrongs that have been done to you.





Good luck.
Reply:It's good to get it out. No alcoholics don't feel good about themselves and they always are ashamed. That is why they destroy themselves. They don't see any good in themselves. It's very sad.
Reply:alcoholism is very hard... not just on the alcoholic, but on the family. i am very sorry you are having to experience this. not only am i a RECOVERED addict/alcoholic.. but i spent a year working in a drug/alcohol rehabilitation center. my biological father was also an abusive alcoholic. (i say RECOVERED because i don't buy into that "recovering" bull... you either quit it or you don't..)





i can come from both sides of the issue.. the user, and the family of the user... and i can't tell you how bad i felt when i finally sobered up and realized how bad i had hurt those i loved so much! and the only way i could face them, was to apologize.. and words aren't enough. i had to change my life... and i did. i've been clean for over four years now. never had the desire to touch any of it again.....





and the way alcoholics or any kind of addict faces people is easy.. you just keep the high going until you can't feel.. and if you start to feel bad.. you drink more. and until you decide you are ready to change.. thats just the way it is.





i'm so grateful i had the people i did to help me get out of my addictions... i did enough damage.... and i'm glad i didn't do any further, and that all the important relationships have been restored, and strengthened more than i could ever imagine..





and, forgiveness is always best... but, its hard to forgive until someone asks for forgiveness.... i understand.... and even then it can be hard... my thoughts and prayers are with you, and i hope that you can find a way to be at peace.. it sounds like this situation is very frustrating for you.. and i hope your father gets the help he needs... so someday you can have a relationship with him. and if he ever truly does change, and repent, and stop drinking.. i hope that at least then you will find it in your heart to forgive him





and don't pay any attention to people on here who give you crap about this question.... i think some people are going to take it the wrong way.. but i understand where you are coming from... i don't think everyone will take the time to realize that....