If a man antagonizes you and spits in your face and swears in your face are you an abuser if u smack him?

My husband likes to get in my face....close enough to where our faces touch and he yells and curses and when I smacked him for doing that stupid crap he tells me I am an abuser and I deserve to be hit back (he punched me in the face then spit in my face because I smacked him) He says it's my fault and he was only defending himself. How many of you would have been able to just walk away if this happened to you?

If a man antagonizes you and spits in your face and swears in your face are you an abuser if u smack him?
Well first of all he shouldn't be getting in your face in the first place. If you want my honest opinion, he sounds a bit controlling. Second of all, neither one of you should be putting your hands on one another...two wrongs don't make a right. Also, I think spitting in someone face has got to be one of the most disrespectful things someone could do to someone else. It looks like you guys have some lack of communication. If you guys have to put hands on each other, maybe its best to walk away from each other altogether before someone gets really hurt.





To answer your intial question, you could be somewhat classified as an abuser yourself for putting your hands on him.
Reply:Why is he still your husband? I would have walked away a long time ago!
Reply:GET OUT... no one deserves to be abused. There are 8 billion people on the planet, no matter what good you see in him, there are men that you will love and would never use violence
Reply:Congrats on smacking him. He deserves a kick in the a**
Reply:Not very many could walk away i do understand how you feel


been there done that. But i have to say why not just leave him


because you two are both being abusers more him then you i would sat. But the truth is you be better off leaving then to be punched in the face. He really sounds like an a$$ hole i wish you luck.
Reply:I wouldn't say you are an abuser, he was pushing all of your buttons and I know just b/c you're female shouldn't make it okay but dang a woman can only take so much!!! I would have punched him in his nads too!!!!
Reply:You are both in the wrong.





Getting in your face is no excuse for hitting him. If you had been in his face, would it have been justifiable for him to slap you? According to your logic, it would have.





Either way, this is an unhealthy relationship.
Reply:He needs more then just Smacked! sounds like he is physically and mentally abusive towards you. I think verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. Get out and get help


no one needs to go through that. You can also contact your local ywca, they help women who are battered by their husbands.





Good luck
Reply:Time for anger management classes or a divorce. I wouldn't tolerate that nonsense from anyone.
Reply:jab him in the eye's then kick him real hard in the nads, when he falls down,kick him in the jaw and stomp on his knees. now pack your stuff and get away from him now.
Reply:Well never happened to me but if it did, i would smack him again for saying it was my fault!
Reply:What the hell are you waiting for? There are people in this world who would end his nasty @ss for that.
Reply:No it's not your fault! He was the one in your face yelling and threatening you! YOU were the one defending yourself. He's a poor excuse of a man!
Reply:you are both equally wrong...and not to mention, immature! he had no right YELLING in your face, but you had absolutely NO RIGHT to smack him. get in his face and yell back, or whatever. you crossed a line, that i would never cross with my husband.
Reply:You need serious help. Get out of that relationship. Oh and yes I would have walked away. After my dad and about 5 of my cousins kicked the crap out of him.
Reply:O HELL........... come on, I think you were defending yourself, I would smack him too if he got in my face like that, he's the abuser, you should rethink this whole relationship, sweetheart, this is no love it's an abuse from his side, so try to leave him before he does something worse to u.
Reply:My ex was the same way after 5 years this past July I left. You should never put yourself in that situation get out before it gets alot worse. I have had a broken nose,black eyes,and busted mouth no one deserves that man or woman. Abuse is no joke if he will punch you in the face who knows what else he is capable of.
Reply:If some moron did that to me, he would be eating his balls through his splintered teeth!